Criticism, Self-Image

Weak Eyes

No Comments 12 January 2010

Scripture
She conceived again, and when she gave birth to a son she said, “This time I will praise the LORD.” So she named him Judah. Then she stopped having children. Genesis 29:35

Observation
It’s not clear what was wrong with Leah’s eyes. Most translations describe them as “weak”. I’ve read the opinions of many experts, both rabbis and pastors. The jury is out whether she was cross-eyed, near-sighted or just a cry baby. The original word for “weak” implies tenderness and softness. Perhaps Rachel had fiery, sexy eyes that got Jacob’s hormones flowing. Maybe Leah was too much the sentimental, sniffling chick-flick watcher to turn him on. Whatever it was about Leah, she knew that she did not measure up to Jacob’s expectations. She just wasn’t good enough to be loved.

For a season, long enough to have three children, Leah tried to win her husband’s approval by doing the one thing she could do well: make babies. She pumped out Reuben, Simeon and Levi, but nothing changed in her marriage. Jacob was still frosty towards her and hot toward Rachel.

It is not easy to live with the dislike of others, especially someone as close as a husband or a wife. We want to be loved. We want to be wanted. We want the perfect life. We are in love with ideals. We’ll do anything to receive the love of another. “How do you want me to behave?” we ask. Then we contour our life to please others. Leah went to ridiculous lengths to give birth to a football team full of boys just to make her husband love her and still came up as just a background person to Jacob.

There are some people who are afraid to be alone. Some men have to have a woman. Some women have to have a man. I heard Dr. Laura confront a woman who went from abusive relationship to abusive relationship. “Just leave him!” she shrieked over the radio. A frightened voice came over the airwaves, “But what would I do then? I would be alone!”

With her fourth baby, Leah shows us a better way than addiction to the approval of others. She accepted that nothing would change about Jacob, but everything could change about her. Her husband might never love her, but in God’s eyes she was highly esteemed. She called her son Praise (Judah), and filled her emptiness for a man’s love with the praise for the God who loved her.

Application
Sometimes when our desperate prayers are not answered we need to ask God to change us rather than to change our situation. Leah would never have the affection of Jacob, but she could have an intimate relationship with the God of Jacob. So what if I have weak eyes! The approval of others may never come, I may not live up to expectations, but I can rest in the unconditional acceptance of the Lord.

Prayer
Father, I lose myself in praise for you. Worship is the invitation to be joyful without earthly reason and to be enveloped with the cloud of delight that surrounds you. In praising you I join the festivities that are already happening for you in heaven. You are the most self-assured, joyful being in the universe. I take delight in you and with you. Today Father, I ask you to be my praise. Amen.

Challenge, Expectation, Potential, Self-Image, Small Beginnings

Just Jump

No Comments 27 December 2009

I just put together this slideshow about my wife Leslie. She is one incredibly competent woman.

Scripture
Do not be afraid. I am the First and the Last. I am the Living One; I was dead, and behold I am alive for ever and ever! And I hold the keys of death and Hades. Revelation 1:17-18

Observation
We are afraid of not being good enough. It is no use hiding. Over performance is as much insecurity as is hiding in the shadows. Life is a stage and all eyes are watching. We can pretend that it doesn’t matter what others think, but we have the sneaking feeling that we aren’t up to par. If others knew that our silence was not wisdom but stage fright maybe they wouldn’t seek out our help.

What are we to do? The answer is simple. Let all of your inadequacies be swallowed up in the competency of Jesus Christ.

Do not be afraid. I am the First and the Last. I am the Living One; I was dead, and behold I am alive for ever and ever! And I hold the keys of death and Hades. Revelation 1:17-18

In Jesus Christ is there from beginning to end. He shows us what it means to be completely human. He can outlive anything that comes against him. Nothing handcuff him, for he holds the keys. Within the person of Jesus Christ is unlimited competency. He calls us to look into the infinite vault, warehouse, reservoir and reserves of his infinite being. He is our all in all.

Application
What would happen if we flung ourselves headlong into the unreasonable call of God and dared to discover what Jesus could do through one life yielded to him? Part of me wants to say, “You go first!” But he calls me.

Come to the edge, He said.
They said, We are afraid.
Come to the edge, He said.
They came. He pushed them… and they flew.

Guillaume Apollinaire

Prayer
Father, because of Christ, there is more in me than I know about. It will only know it exists in me by being put into conditions beyond my ability. So here I come. Amen.

Self-Image

All I Want Is in Him

No Comments 11 March 2009

Press the arrow to listen to Hillsong sing “All I Need is You” while you read today’s devotion on partiality.

Scripture
But from those who were of high reputation (what they were makes no difference to me; God shows no partiality)–well, those who were of reputation contributed nothing to me. Galatians 2:6

Observation
It is easy to see the ugliness of partiality when those lower on the totem pole are treated with distain. But more subtle is another ugly side of partiality when we show too much attention to those on the topside of life.

Why are people of high reputation so attractive to us that we’re willing to forget what we value and to bow and scrape for them? It comes back to the simple fact that we aren’t secure in what God has said about us. We think there is something missing in the bag of goodies he has given to us to make our life succeed. So we start begging from people of reputation.

I wonder how the Lord feels, after having invested so much into each human being, to see us chasing the scraps that supposedly important people throw our way?

Application
All I want is in him. My life must become as simple as that.

Prayer
Father, today, help me to live my life out of the abundance you have given to me. Amen.

Self-Image

A Bug-Eyed View of Life

No Comments 23 February 2009

Press the arrow to listen to Nichole Nordeman sing “Brave” as you read today’s devotion self-confidence.

Scripture
“We even saw giants there, the descendants of Anak. Next to them we felt like grasshoppers, and that’s what they thought, too!” Numbers 13:33

Observation
The greatest risk in life is not what we think of ourselves. Nor is it what others think of us. The greatest limitation in life is what we think others think of us.  If we imagine that others think of us as pretty, clever, handsome, athletic, winsome or whatever positive, we will live up to their expectation. If however if we interpret the silence or the body language of others wrongly we will pull ourselves back because we do not think of ourselves as able.

Where does this pervasive human insecurity come from?  All inferiority is based in pride. It seems odd to think of a person with low self-worth as being proud, but they are living a pride based life. Pride is living without a foundation in God’s approval over us. As soon as we try to live life without God’s love we are left to either boasting or bagging ourselves. Both are a form of pride, because they are human attempts to exist without an trusting in what God says about us in his word.

There is power in humility. Humility is not the humiliation of putting down our strengths. Instead, humility is simply walking with God. On the one hand, standing next to God, I know who I am and what I’m not. On the other hand, standing next to God, there is a power to draw from outside of myself.

Application
It was Eleanor Roosevelt who said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” The purpose of Moses’ spy mission, was not to learn about the land, but to discover what was in the hearts of the people. New challenges can make me feel inadequate. I can misinterpret the giants around me and deprecate my potential. Instead, I’m called to live in what God has said about me. My very favourite spot in the Bible to restore my self-confidence is Ephesians 1. There I find a hearty list of depictions of who I am in Christ:

blessed…with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places in Christ

He chose us in Him

He predestined us to adoption as sons through Jesus Christ to Himself

the praise of the glory of His grace, which He freely bestowed on us in the Beloved

in Him we have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses

In all wisdom and insight He made known to us the mystery of His will…the summing up of all things in Christ

His kind intention which He purposed in Him

In Him also we have obtained an inheritance

we who were the first to hope in Christ would be to the praise of His glory.

you were sealed in Him with the Holy Spirit of promise

Prayer
Father, today, help me to see myself through the eyes of God and not through the eyes of the giants. Amen.

Accountability, Authority, Humility, Jesus, Leadership, Self-Image, Significance, Stability, Subumission

Snug like Lego

No Comments 15 October 2007

Amaze yourself with these Nathan Sawaya’s Lego sculptures on CNN and his blog.

Amaze yourself with these Nathan Sawaya’s Lego sculptures on CNN and his blog.

Scripture

For Jesus is the one referred to in the Scriptures, where it says,

‘The stone that you builders rejected
has now become the cornerstone.’ Acts 4:11

Observation

Back in April of ’79 I was a senior in high school saving for college. My summer job was working construction. The boss had just finished laying rows of cinder blocks 27 feet tall. My job was to pull down the scaffolding. I ate my McDonalds lunch from that sky perch and did two historic things. First I made a time capsule of junk food as I put the McDonalds packaging into the holes in the wall. And then I did what no one can resist: I wrote my name and the date in the wet concrete in the top course of blocks.

No one can resist making their mark in stone. There is graffiti etched in sandstone along the Oregon Trail from the 1850′s. There are tags in Roman catacombs and even the Egyptian tombs. I once asked a graffiti artist what it was that drove him to spray paint his tag on blank walls around town. He said, “It’s the desire to be noticed.”

Every human longs for significance and wants to make their mark. Deep down, somehow, in some way, for some moment of time no matter how brief we want to be important. Otherwise Gold Class, First Class, Platinum would not exist. We want to end up on top of the heap of humanity and be treated special.

We are each special to God, but he has designed it such that none of us can claim to be superior. That’s why this little phrase is repeated over and over in the Bible:

The stone that you builders rejected
has now become the cornerstone.

The “cornerstone” is not a shinny granite block at the bottom of the wall, it is a huge monolith at the top of all the courses of stone. The cornerstone in the temple was the largest building stone on earth. It was a rectangular block of rock nearly the size of a house. The walls of the Temple were built with man-sized blocks of granite. The rows and rows of huge stones were held in place by the top capstone. It was pure genius as it withstood earthquakes for centuries.

Application

Here’s the point for us: we are definitely not the capstone, that’s Jesus. Nor are we dirt because the stones were built without mortar. Instead each of us is a living stone with a part to play in the wall, high or low, visible or invisible wherever the Stone Mason wants it to rest. Once each of us is in position, Jesus takes his place on the highest level and holds us in place.

It is a secure feeling being locked into Christ submission. Like a row of Lego blocks, he puts me where I belong and holds me secure. And submitting to his Lordship is a joy because he did not take this exalted position for himself. The stone was rejected and God the Father himself hoisted him into the highest place. Jesus’ authority over me is submission and that is a joy.

All comes together when Jesus is in the right place over our lives. Jesus will only be in the right place when I confess that Jesus is the cornerstone, I am not.

Prayer

Father today I want to stumble on Jesus so I find just the place I am to be. Amen.

Humility, Perspective, Self-Image

The Humility of Age

No Comments 02 September 2007

My Dad worked full time until age 79 and displays well the humilty of age.

My Dad worked full time until age 79 and displays well the humilty of age.

She replied, “In your Kingdom, please let my two sons sit in places of honor next to you, one on your right and the other on your left.” But Jesus answered by saying to them, “You don’t know what you are asking! Are you able to drink from the bitter cup of suffering I am about to drink?” “Oh yes,” they replied, “we are able!” Jesus told them, “You will indeed drink from my bitter cup. But I have no right to say who will sit on my right or my left. My Father has prepared those places for the ones he has chosen.” Matthew 21:21-23

Then one of the twenty-four elders asked me, “Who are these who are clothed in white? Where did they come from?” And I said to him, “Sir, you are the one who knows.” Revelation 7:13-14

I watched the movie this week, The Fog of War which features interviews with Robert MacNamara the Secretary of Defense under Kennedy and Johnson. The movie showcases candid interviews with MacNamara at the age of 85 with black and white flash backs from the age of 40 during the days of the Cuban Missile Crisis and Vietnam. Aside from all of the interesting history and politics, what I found gripping was the contrast between a young man wanting to get somewhere in life and an old man humbled by life.

The 40 year old had something of a smirk, a hidden agenda, a desire for power, a penchant to be right. The 80 year old seemed to have more questions, regrets and uncertainties.

I wonder if a similar humbling of age is happening here with John. In the gospels we read how the young man got his mother to put in a good word with Jesus for a box office seat at the coming of the kingdom. But now as an old man there is a humility in John. He is speaking to one of the 24 elders. I would assume that John would become one of those. Twelve of them would be heads of the tribes of Israel and the other 12 the apostles. So in a sense John is speaking to a colleague.

But his answer shows the change of heart that only a 90 year old can show well. “Sir, you are the one who knows.”

Do I have to wait until age has lacerated my face with wrinkles and sucked the color out of my hair? I would like to have some of that same meekness today.

Father, while I grow older let me let me become less certain of myself and more confident with you.

Authority, Compromise, Leadership, Self-Image

Comfortable With Discomfort Jeremiah 39:5-6

No Comments 24 August 2007

Here’s our family just a year ago, the last time we were all together.

Here’s our family just a year ago, the last time we were all together.

But the Babylonian army pursued them and overtook Zedekiah in the plains of Jericho. They captured him and took him to Nebuchadnezzar king of Babylon at Riblah in the land of Hamath, where he pronounced sentence on him.  There at Riblah the king of Babylon slaughtered the sons of Zedekiah before his eyes and also killed all the nobles of Judah.  Then he put out Zedekiah’s eyes and bound him with bronze shackles to take him to Babylon. Jeremiah 39:5-7

The king was a great politician.Â

On one hand he was a puppet installed by King Nebuchadnezzar of Babylon.  So he had to kowtow to the Chaldeans on the right of the map.Â

On the other hand he was ruler of the Jews who were itching to throw the Babylonians off. So he had to curtsey to the locals on the left side of the map.Â

As the story unfolds King Zedekiah always knew what was the right political answer, but he never looked ahead at ultimate outcomes. He only looked to the left or right, he never looked ahead.

If kings struggle with people pleasing then we must as well. There are many voices trying to guide us home, and sometimes all of them sound right. We can live to please them and in the end lose everything precious to us. Or if we can bear to live for a little while with rejection we can inherit more than we have imagined possible.

A leader who is worthy of the title of leader must learn to be comfortable with disapproval. He must be a person who can close his eyes and play forward the impact of the decisions that he makes. He must also be a man of God who can get a bird’s eye view of life from his knees. If Zedekiah had only done those two things the lives of thousands would have been spared. That is why leaders must learn to be comfortable with discomfort. The lives of many depend upon it.

Father, help me not to get too comfortable along the way. Keep me steady when others don’t see what you do. Help me to see life more and more from your point of view. Amen.

I'm Phil McCallum, a husband, father and most of all one of the people Jesus loves. I'm privileged to serve Evergreen Community Church in Bothell, Washington as Senior Pastor where people love enough to believe "it's all about relationships." In 1982 I made a vow to read God's word daily and apply it to life. Each day I write out my reflections. Some days I post those on my blog. It's a little personal but it's my hope it will stir you to go deeper still. Learn how I do my devotions. These are my thoughts and not necessarily those of the ministry I serve. By the way check out the computer study Bible Glo. I highly recommend it.

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